There is a leak under my sink in the bathroom. Just a tiny tiny hole in the pipe. It would be super easy to fix, but maybe this will be a good excuse to have the owner come fix my window and the damn outlets in the bathroom. (My building is owned by a company owned by the city?) So yeah.
Time to go clean up all that water. Guess I might as well mop the floors too…
I understand the impulse to be angry at people automatically assuming Daley is gay, but its just as harmful to automatically assume he’s bisexual and some new poser boy for bisexual erasure. He said he was in a relationship with a man, but still “fancies” girls. He never actually labeled himself, and we should respect that.
It’s incredibly common for gay men to spend some time with the bisexual label or not fully commit to any labels. It’s quite common for us to take time figuring out what feelings we may have for women actually mean. It’s actually incredibly common for everyone in the queer community to take time settling on label (or never embrace one at all), not to mention straight people who might experiment when they’re young. I think it’s also dangerous to assume that bisexuality is the automatic label for anyone who may be queer but not acknowledge a label right away.
We should probably be respectful of that, and not automatically label people any way until they’re ready to do so themselves. We need to foster a society that allows people to figure things out for themselves before turning their identies into talking points, and in this public case let Tom Daley himself react to how he’s being labeled in the press.